Help for friends and family

What is an alcoholic?

If an individual repeatedly drinks more than they intend or want to, if they get into trouble, or if they have memory lapses when they drink, they may be an alcoholic. If they want to control your drinking but can't, then alcoholism is a definite possibility. But as far as AA is concerned, it is up to the individual to decide whether they're an alcoholic. Read more: What is an alcoholic?

Are they an alcoholic?

Only people can decide for themselves that they are alcoholic but there are clear signs that can indicate someone has a drinking problem that is more than just heavy drinking.

AA members are people who have admitted they are powerless over their own drinking and that is difference between alcoholics and heavy drinkers.

Do you think someone you know has a problem?

Here are some of the questions we tried to answer honestly. If we answered YES to four or more questions, we were in deep trouble with our drinking. See how you do. Remember, there is no disgrace in facing up to the fact that you have a problem. Read more: Do you think someone you know has a problem?

What you can do to refer

Many health care professionals have found effective ways to refer people to A.A. One said:

"No one suffers more than the alcoholic. When you once touch the life of an alcoholic and help him or her to recover, when you observe this incredible change from a suffering, helpless, sick (and dying) person to one who is alive, vital, functioning, and happy, you will be part of a rich, rewarding, and profound experience. A.A. is the most effective means of helping an alcoholic to stop drinking."

Where you go for help

A.A. is set up to help alcoholics who have a desire to stop drinking.  If an individual’s drinking is causing you problems, or you have issues with an individual who drinks, then you should contact Al-Anon.  Al-Anon Family Groups consist of relatives and friends of alcoholics who, by banding together, can better solve their common problem. Find out more at www.al-anon.org.nz.